Its not a proxy for things but the importance of the age difference is a highly significant & reliable indicator of where the power in the relationship resides, and how much danger the person with less power is in. Also people in safe situations dont need to do anything to prove how safe they are beyond to just exist safely. People with concerns about whether a powerless person is being exploited are not a danger to safe relationships or their dynamics, but they do expose exploitation
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I tend to be attracted to people around my own age, so I suppose I don’t have a horse in this race, but can we please stop shaming grown-ass adults for having relationships with age gaps -
I tend to be attracted to people around my own age, so I suppose I don’t have a horse in this race, but can we please stop shaming grown-ass adults for having relationships with age gapsThe way to put it most simply is this:
If the age gap is an obstacle/something yall have to overcome in the relationship, its probably fine
But if the age gap is a selling point, someone is getting exploited
Edit to add: its never ok to say "theyre young/old for their age" no, theyre not. Theyre either under- or over-developed for their age, or else use non-age-related words to explain the vibe bc its not actually age-related (eg. are they "old fashioned" or regressive?)