Growing up, I never quite fit into the typical mold of masculinity.
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Growing up, I never quite fit into the typical mold of masculinity. My name, Minhee, doesn't help either—it carries a fairly feminine connotation in Korean, which only made it harder to feel any strong sense of male identity.
For the longest time, society categorized me as male, and I didn't really push back against that label. I just went along with it.
But over time, I've realized something important: I don't just lack the traits society expects from men—I have zero interest in pursuing what people call “masculine values.” Sometimes I find myself actively rejecting them.
Things really clicked after I met my spouse, Lisa (@tokolovesme@seoul.earth). Through our deep, honest conversations, I finally found words for something I'd felt all along: I'm fundamentally different from a typical cisgender, heterosexual man.
I have come to identify as non-binary and bisexual.
After introducing myself as a man for my entire life, claiming this identity—actually saying “I am non-binary”—still feels new and awkward. But I'm starting to share this truth with the people close to me, one conversation at a time.
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저는 어릴 때부터 典型的인 男性性과는 距離가 멀었습니다. 제 이름인 「民憙」도 꽤 女性的인 語感의 이름이라, 스스로 男性으로서의 正體性을 느끼기 더욱 어려웠던 것 같기도 합니다.
오랫동안 社會는 저를 男性으로 여겼고, 저도 딱히 그 範疇에 抵抗하지 않았던 것 같습니다. 그냥 그러려니 하고 살았죠.
하지만 時間이 지나면서 漸次 느끼게 되었습니다. 저는 그저 社會가 男性에게 要求하는 것들을 缺如한 게 아니라, 所謂 「男性的 價値」라고 부르는 것들을 아예 追求하지 않는다는 것을요. 甚至於 때로는 積極的으로 拒否하기까지 합니다.
그리고 運 좋게도 配偶者인 <ruby lang="zh">俐思<rp>(</rp><rt lang="ko">리사</rt><rp>)</rp></ruby>(@tokolovesme@seoul.earth)를 만나 서로 깊고 率直한 對話를 나누면서, 오랫동안 느껴왔지만 言語化하지 못했던 것을 마침내 表現할 수 있게 되었습니다. 저는 典型的인 시스젠더 異性愛者 男性과는 根本的으로 다르다는 것을.
저는 논바이너리이자 兩性愛者입니다.
오랫동안 스스로 男性이라고 紹介해 온 탓에 논바이너리라고 自稱하는 것이 아직 조금 쑥쓰럽기도 하고 生疏하지만, 그래도 가까운 사람들에게는 조금씩 이 眞實을 털어놓으려고 합니다.
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私は幼い頃から、典型的な男性性とは距離が有りました。私の名前である「<ruby>民憙<rp>（</rp><rt>ミンヒ</rt><rp>）</rp></ruby>」も、韓国語ではかなり女性的な語感を持つ名前なので、自ら男性としてのアイデンティティを感じることがさらに難しかったのかもしれません。
長い間、社会は私を男性として見なし、私も特にその範疇に抵抗することはありませんでした。ただそういうものだと思って生きてきました。
しかし時間が経つにつれて、次第に気づくようになりました。私は単に社会が男性に要求するものを欠如しているのではなく、いわゆる「男性的価値」と呼ばれるものを、そもそも追求していないということを。時には積極的に拒否することさえあります。
そして幸運にも、配偶者の<ruby>俐思<rp>（</rp><rt>リサ</rt><rp>）</rp></ruby>（@tokolovesme@seoul.earth）と出会い、お互いに深く率直な対話を交わすうちに、長い間感じていながら言語化できなかったことを、ついに表現できるようになりました。私は典型的なシスジェンダーの異性愛者男性とは、根本的に違うということを。
私はノンバイナリーであり、バイセクシュアルです。
長らく自分を男性として紹介してきたせいで、ノンバイナリーと自称することがまだ少し恥ずかしく、不慣れでもありますが、それでも親しい人々には少しずつこの真実を打ち明けようとしています。
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@hongminhee Congrats! It can be difficult and scary to come out with this publicly, but it’s very rewarding too! There’s no feeling like really being yourself.
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@hongminhee @tokolovesme I'm so proud of you, I know it can be difficult to come out publicly when you have a large following, but it's important to feel comfortable with who you really are, and you should never have to hide that ❤️
I came out in 2020, and the fediverse was a huge support that gave me the courage to come out to my parents, family and friends.
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@hongminhee @tokolovesme I'm so proud of you, I know it can be difficult to come out publicly when you have a large following, but it's important to feel comfortable with who you really are, and you should never have to hide that ❤️
I came out in 2020, and the fediverse was a huge support that gave me the courage to come out to my parents, family and friends.
@dansup@mastodon.social That means so much, thank you. And thank you for sharing your own journey. It's so powerful to hear how this community supported you. You really get the challenges, and it's comforting to know I'm not alone in this. I appreciate you. 🥰
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@anarchia
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Studying a Battle Born LFP Battery’s Death Under Controlled Conditions
The test setup for the Battle Born LFP cycling. (Credit: Will Prowse, YouTube)
There has been quite a bit of news recently about the Battle Born LiFePO4 (LFP) batteries and how they are dying in droves if not outright melting their plastic enclosures. Although the subsequent autopsies show molten plastic spacers on the bus bars and discolored metal in addition to very loose wiring, it can be educational to see exactly what is happening during repeated charge-discharge cycles at a fraction of the battery’s rated current. Thus [Will Prowse] recently sacrificed another Battle Born 75 Ah LFP battery to the Engineering QA Gods.This time around the battery was hooked up to test equipment to fully graph out the charging and discharging voltage and current as it was put through its paces. To keep the battery as happy as possible it was charged and discharged at a mere 49A, well below its rated 100A.
Despite this, even after a mere 14 cycles the battery’s BMS would repeatedly disconnect the battery, as recorded by the instruments. Clearly something wasn’t happy inside the battery at this point, but the decision was made to push it a little bit harder while still staying well below the rated current.
This led to the observed failure mode where the BMS disconnects the battery so frequently that practically no current is flowing any more. Incidentally this is why you need to properly load test a battery to see whether it’s still good. In this failure mode there is still voltage on the terminals, but trying to pass any level of current leads to the rapid disconnecting by the BMS, even while as in this case the plastic spacer on the bus bar melts a little bit more.
Despite these very rapid disconnects and observed thermal issues, the BMS never puts the battery into any kind of safe mode as other LFP batteries do, leading to the melting plastic and other issues that have now been repeatedly observed. The discoloration of the battery terminals that originally started the investigation thus appears to be a result of higher charge currents and correspondingly higher temperatures.
Worryingly, Battle Born recently put out a statement – addressed in the video – in which they completely disavow these findings and insist that there is no issue at all with these LFP batteries. Naturally, if you still have any Battle Born LFP installed, you really want to test them properly, or ideally replace them with a less sketchy alternative until some kind of recall is issued.
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@evan sounds like you’re developing a Napoleon complex
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I'm surprised they do not want my soul and my newborn.
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@jon_bon same here. If I can't do that, then there's really no point in not buying an iPhone. I wonder if Samsung and other Android phone makers have been asked about how this will impact their sales?
