Last year, I followed everyone who interacted with my posts.

[afreytes@mastodon.gamedev.place]

Last year, I followed everyone who interacted with my posts.

Not everyone accepts follow requests automatically (and that's fine, you SHOULD control what you want your fediverse to be!).

But!...

Sometimes I go, "I should follow this person!" only to find that I had already requested to follow them. This has happened multiple times

Now I wonder:
1) Did they deny my request, but my instance was never notified?
2) Should I cancel the request and try again?
3) Do they hate me so left me hangin'?

[christopherbrown@mastodon.social]

@afreytes I have just accepted that everyone “hates” me now. I have never been popular, in real life or online.

Realizing too my replies are kind of negative. I’m not trying to bring you down. I’m just trying to interact with anybody.

I’ll see myself out. 😉

[mostlyblindgamer@dragonscave.space]

@afreytes I can tell why I did that to you (and everybody else): I get follow requests for bigger toots and let them pile up for a bit. Then I calmly go over them. I don’t instantly accept a follow request unless I already know the person.

The main thing here is that I’m in this for human connections, so I’m interested in mutuals. If it feels like the person reflexively hit the follow button (especially if they didn’t interact before, as per the instructions in my bio), I’ll either reject it or leave it on hold until I figure out if we’re a good fit to be mutuals.