On our way to pre-school this morning in Paris my 4-year-old and I witnessed quite a scene.
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On our way to pre-school this morning in Paris my 4-year-old and I witnessed quite a scene.
An irate driver with his windows down was screaming vulgar insults at the top of his lungs⦠seemingly directed at a man on the sidewalk. Mind you, at 8:30am.
The entire neighborhood seemed to freeze to look at what was going on.
The driver kept repeating a super vulgar insult (« ⦠ta mĆØre Ā» / Ā« ⦠your mom Ā») followed by « I see you, donāt pretend you didnāt see me Ā».
Now, my 4-year-old has:
- an incredible memory
- a very fine ear because sheās fully bilingual
After this manās loud shouts (near us, too), she kept asking me: « mom what is he saying? Ā»
I had to do some quick thinking to save the day and prevent her from saying the same thing out loud.
Now, since the most vulgar part of the insult sounds exactly like « Nick Ā» (the name), I told my little one: « oh the driver is mad at the man on the sidewalk right there. They know each other. Heās saying Nicola, Nick, I know your mom! Stop doing bad things or else I will tell her.Ā Ā»
It worked.
Ā« He knows his mom? Ā»
Ā« Yes! And heās saying if he doesnāt behave he will tell his mom. Ā»She just⦠bought it. Huge sigh of relief right there.
Yes sure, itās a white lie - sorry - but I have heard a fair amount of small children saying horribly vulgar things (on the bus, subway, at the park) and Iāll seize any chance I get to prevent this for my little one.
Iāll happily take my little win of the day.
PSA: please donāt use vulgar language in front of children, theyāre like sponges š„²
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On our way to pre-school this morning in Paris my 4-year-old and I witnessed quite a scene.
An irate driver with his windows down was screaming vulgar insults at the top of his lungs⦠seemingly directed at a man on the sidewalk. Mind you, at 8:30am.
The entire neighborhood seemed to freeze to look at what was going on.
The driver kept repeating a super vulgar insult (« ⦠ta mĆØre Ā» / Ā« ⦠your mom Ā») followed by « I see you, donāt pretend you didnāt see me Ā».
Now, my 4-year-old has:
- an incredible memory
- a very fine ear because sheās fully bilingual
After this manās loud shouts (near us, too), she kept asking me: « mom what is he saying? Ā»
I had to do some quick thinking to save the day and prevent her from saying the same thing out loud.
Now, since the most vulgar part of the insult sounds exactly like « Nick Ā» (the name), I told my little one: « oh the driver is mad at the man on the sidewalk right there. They know each other. Heās saying Nicola, Nick, I know your mom! Stop doing bad things or else I will tell her.Ā Ā»
It worked.
Ā« He knows his mom? Ā»
Ā« Yes! And heās saying if he doesnāt behave he will tell his mom. Ā»She just⦠bought it. Huge sigh of relief right there.
Yes sure, itās a white lie - sorry - but I have heard a fair amount of small children saying horribly vulgar things (on the bus, subway, at the park) and Iāll seize any chance I get to prevent this for my little one.
Iāll happily take my little win of the day.
PSA: please donāt use vulgar language in front of children, theyāre like sponges š„²
@elena for myself I try to use as little vulgar language as I can. Doesn't matter where or with whom I speak.
A (very small) contribution to trying to create a more enjoyable worldz
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On our way to pre-school this morning in Paris my 4-year-old and I witnessed quite a scene.
An irate driver with his windows down was screaming vulgar insults at the top of his lungs⦠seemingly directed at a man on the sidewalk. Mind you, at 8:30am.
The entire neighborhood seemed to freeze to look at what was going on.
The driver kept repeating a super vulgar insult (« ⦠ta mĆØre Ā» / Ā« ⦠your mom Ā») followed by « I see you, donāt pretend you didnāt see me Ā».
Now, my 4-year-old has:
- an incredible memory
- a very fine ear because sheās fully bilingual
After this manās loud shouts (near us, too), she kept asking me: « mom what is he saying? Ā»
I had to do some quick thinking to save the day and prevent her from saying the same thing out loud.
Now, since the most vulgar part of the insult sounds exactly like « Nick Ā» (the name), I told my little one: « oh the driver is mad at the man on the sidewalk right there. They know each other. Heās saying Nicola, Nick, I know your mom! Stop doing bad things or else I will tell her.Ā Ā»
It worked.
Ā« He knows his mom? Ā»
Ā« Yes! And heās saying if he doesnāt behave he will tell his mom. Ā»She just⦠bought it. Huge sigh of relief right there.
Yes sure, itās a white lie - sorry - but I have heard a fair amount of small children saying horribly vulgar things (on the bus, subway, at the park) and Iāll seize any chance I get to prevent this for my little one.
Iāll happily take my little win of the day.
PSA: please donāt use vulgar language in front of children, theyāre like sponges š„²
@elena I must admit that reaction of yours is seriously well played š
We took absolutely different approach with vulgarisms - we teached them what is it, why do someone say it and that these are not supposed to be said and even when I or their mum uses it, they should tell us to watch our language. There is no such possibility to keep childrens from these words away anyway.
At their 8-7 age at this moment I must say I am very happy we went this way as the outcome even exceeded my expectations - instead us correcting them, they started correcting us and they do watch their language and even if bad word slips from their mouth, they often apologize immediately
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@elena I must admit that reaction of yours is seriously well played š
We took absolutely different approach with vulgarisms - we teached them what is it, why do someone say it and that these are not supposed to be said and even when I or their mum uses it, they should tell us to watch our language. There is no such possibility to keep childrens from these words away anyway.
At their 8-7 age at this moment I must say I am very happy we went this way as the outcome even exceeded my expectations - instead us correcting them, they started correcting us and they do watch their language and even if bad word slips from their mouth, they often apologize immediately
@schmaker Thatās great!
Yes we have that approach too at home but there is vulgar language⦠and extremely rude vulgar language (like - your mom) which Iām not really fond of explaining my child yet because (a) sheās only 4 (b) she weaponizes things that create strong reactions in us.. so⦠a couple of years down the line maybe š
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@schmaker Thatās great!
Yes we have that approach too at home but there is vulgar language⦠and extremely rude vulgar language (like - your mom) which Iām not really fond of explaining my child yet because (a) sheās only 4 (b) she weaponizes things that create strong reactions in us.. so⦠a couple of years down the line maybe š
she weaponizes things that create strong reactions in us
Innocent little monsters šParenting never ends being fun
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she weaponizes things that create strong reactions in us
Innocent little monsters šParenting never ends being fun
@schmaker haha indeed š ā
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@elena for myself I try to use as little vulgar language as I can. Doesn't matter where or with whom I speak.
A (very small) contribution to trying to create a more enjoyable worldz
@wonshu that's great!
even in my pre-mom life I very very rarely used vulgar language.
Thing is, when you are really angry and use a swear word, it has 100x the impact on people in your life, when they know you never use this type of language. So they go: "uh ho, this is baaaad" š ā
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