@stefan as for the linked post of Alice: yes, our instance was spammed by botnet, creating sever accounts spreading pro-russian propaganda (mostly, sometimes chaotically randomly interacting, for some time. I even had some chat with botnet operator (or maybe it was AI, but I doubt it). The demanded to cancel local pro-ukrainian account: it is not operated by me, and it is very polite, not even any gore videos or so, and it is anyway just mirror from Facebook (they like my local 2000 characters limit).
So I know, how this feels, kinda.
The "reply-guy" issue is completely different. We just tend to reply to certain topics. Sometimes we do it, because we consider it funny. Most of the replies are not intentionally hateful, but they may represent point of view alien to original post.
The LGBTQ topic is ... complicated, somehow. I actually started taking this seriously only after I saw Putin's propaganda machine targeting them as an example of "western decadence". Then I realized, that of course, that something is terribly wrong there and I saw the source of hate speech aligned with other types of propaganda, eg. climate change deniers.
While creating safe space for vulnerable minorities is important, I also seek kinda normal, non-safe, adult space: but just not controlled by corporations. So while I understand the need to leave eg. Xitter because of hate speech, and I don't want it there: I also want to do most of the stuff me and other people did on Xitter, we just don't want to be owned by the new owner.
And I am really not a minority of any kind (maybe just slightly neurodivergent, but probably rather typical). I just wanted to be somewhere else. I spent some effort to run the place and help to promote it. But my vision is not "minorities only", "safe space only". Of course: no nazi bar. But I am federalist, not intersectionalist.
Most people just seek interaction (with live people, no bots, no AI) and can withstand some amount of interaction...