So if a kid says something like “when you do X, it makes me frustrated and angry”, and the other person responds with “that’s not actually how you feel, you’re actually just mad at yourself”, that’s gaslighting right?

[calcifer@masto.hackers.town]

So if a kid says something like “when you do X, it makes me frustrated and angry”, and the other person responds with “that’s not actually how you feel, you’re actually just mad at yourself”, that’s gaslighting right?

Like it seems intended to cause the kid to doubt their ability to accurately assess their experiences, which seems pretty textbook to me. But am I off base here?

[oblomov@sociale.network]

@calcifer phrased like that, it's gaslighting.
t's quite possible for people (not just kids) to overreact to minor annoyances that become the vent for frustrations/distress that come/has been accumulated from other sources, which they may not even be conscious about. But that doesn't detract from the fact that the annoyance they react to *is* an annoyance.