If you comment "marry me" on one of my videos or a post online, I will block you.

[rachaelava1024@tech.lgbt]

@vkc And people wonder why there's so much less good YouTube creators that are women (especially trans folks) than YouTube creators that are men. It's because of nonsense like this. It's sad, really.

[sablebadger@dice.camp]

@vkc that's just weird. And hard agree on the creepy factor.

[matty@blahaj.zone]

@gbsills@social.vivaldi.net It's her fault that she get harassed? Are you hearing yourself here?

@vkc@linuxmom.net

[jpummil@genomic.social]

@vkc
Pull up xeyes and do the biggest eye roll ever!
Incorporates Linux into the response…😏👍🙏

[mcbaumwolle@mastodon.social]

@vkc literally this omg

[vkc@linuxmom.net]

@mcbaumwolle Patsy's always right, lol

[jackemled@furry.engineer]

@gbsills @vkc When someone leaves one of those comments, you can help by replying with "dude you're fucking weird".

Recognize & call out bad behavior when you see it. Not saying anything makes it worse because it teaches those people that they can get away with it. Don't excuse it with "boys will be boys", don't ignore it, don't encourage it.

[aeischeid@mastodon.social]

@vkc Not asking you to do the work of figuring out the "how" for us, but for other dudes reading this, what sort of intervention do you think works here?

I think just calling it creepy or insulting is accurate, but also insufficient for the men who aren't at a level of being able to intuit that already. I am lacking succinct phrases or analogies to explain *why* it is such, or maybe how it feels to be on the receiving side of such unwanted attention

[rudgrr@techhub.social]

@aeischeid @vkc was thinking the same thing
How?
If I say soemthing then I come off as white knight-ing. She doesn't need me to fight her battles, she's got it. But if I do nothing then I am standing by and allowing toxic behavior. Maybe I start here by saying reply guys suck.

[vkc@linuxmom.net]

@MrFesser I think they're saying I'm "nice" but not "hot" lol