Someone was talking about being an oblivious man.
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Someone was talking about being an oblivious man.
I remembered in college this girl telling me, "afreytes, why don't you visit me at home and let me copy your lab notes?", unlike me she lived right next to the uni.
And I kept thinking, "this lazyhead wants to copy my work! The nerve of some people! She thinks cuz she pretty she can take advantage of me!"
Next time she comes over to me and says, "My parents won't be home today until late..."
It took me decades to realize.
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Someone was talking about being an oblivious man.
I remembered in college this girl telling me, "afreytes, why don't you visit me at home and let me copy your lab notes?", unlike me she lived right next to the uni.
And I kept thinking, "this lazyhead wants to copy my work! The nerve of some people! She thinks cuz she pretty she can take advantage of me!"
Next time she comes over to me and says, "My parents won't be home today until late..."
It took me decades to realize.
In my defense, I have always been fat, and I have never felt handsome or desirable. So I never think women are interested unless they literally spell it out, which isnt often...
On the other hand, maybe the worst is women sometimes asking , "Are you gay?"
Which is a little hurtful and hilarious at the same time. And I didnt always understand what what the question really meant. Another type of obliviousness.
And like, I try to be polite, but not gay-level polite. đ¤
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In my defense, I have always been fat, and I have never felt handsome or desirable. So I never think women are interested unless they literally spell it out, which isnt often...
On the other hand, maybe the worst is women sometimes asking , "Are you gay?"
Which is a little hurtful and hilarious at the same time. And I didnt always understand what what the question really meant. Another type of obliviousness.
And like, I try to be polite, but not gay-level polite. đ¤
@afreytes 𤣠oh my goodness. I am not that damn polite. đ§ââď¸
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In my defense, I have always been fat, and I have never felt handsome or desirable. So I never think women are interested unless they literally spell it out, which isnt often...
On the other hand, maybe the worst is women sometimes asking , "Are you gay?"
Which is a little hurtful and hilarious at the same time. And I didnt always understand what what the question really meant. Another type of obliviousness.
And like, I try to be polite, but not gay-level polite. đ¤
@afreytes I feel this in my bones. I cheated myself out of a lot of experiences as a teen and young adult by assuming that women as a rule would not be interested in me. I'm happy with where I ended up, but I sometimes regret what was likely an unnecessarily lonely youth.
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Someone was talking about being an oblivious man.
I remembered in college this girl telling me, "afreytes, why don't you visit me at home and let me copy your lab notes?", unlike me she lived right next to the uni.
And I kept thinking, "this lazyhead wants to copy my work! The nerve of some people! She thinks cuz she pretty she can take advantage of me!"
Next time she comes over to me and says, "My parents won't be home today until late..."
It took me decades to realize.
Two roads diverged in a wood, and youâ
You took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference. -
Someone was talking about being an oblivious man.
I remembered in college this girl telling me, "afreytes, why don't you visit me at home and let me copy your lab notes?", unlike me she lived right next to the uni.
And I kept thinking, "this lazyhead wants to copy my work! The nerve of some people! She thinks cuz she pretty she can take advantage of me!"
Next time she comes over to me and says, "My parents won't be home today until late..."
It took me decades to realize.
@afreytes I always assume friendly intentions. I have my whole life. And yeah, I have been told multiple times after the fact that someone was hitting on me.
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In my defense, I have always been fat, and I have never felt handsome or desirable. So I never think women are interested unless they literally spell it out, which isnt often...
On the other hand, maybe the worst is women sometimes asking , "Are you gay?"
Which is a little hurtful and hilarious at the same time. And I didnt always understand what what the question really meant. Another type of obliviousness.
And like, I try to be polite, but not gay-level polite. đ¤
@afreytes if it's any consolation, I'm the oblivious kind as well, and I was underweight until my late 30s. I don't know if there's a physical / body image correlation with obliviousness. I've never being able to tell the difference between ÂŤsfriendlyÂť and ÂŤcoming on to meÂť. Part of it might be that on a personal level I've always considered romance something that you build on top of friendship, rather than independently from it, leading to a conflation of the initial approach