It's easy to say "well they shouldn't have taken and never given back" but it's just as easy to say "well you shouldn't have given that much to begin with." Both are true.
She was (and is) drowning in her own pain and agony, looking for someone to save her.
I well, tried to be that person, even though I couldn't be. That's on me. I felt like I had to. And that is also on me.