Happy International Women's Day!

[roadskater@mastodon.social]

@sundogplanets Just perma-muted one of your first five responders. Sigh.

[losefriendsandalienatepeople@mastodon.social]

Just cut them off. No need to spare feelings.

[grumpydad@infosec.exchange]

@sundogplanets FTR, I'm a 50+ white man and and expert in my field and I regularly get mansplained to.

[david_chisnall@infosec.exchange]

@sundogplanets

I’m not eligible to reply to the poll, but in my last job I was on the Diversity and Inclusion committee, which was predominantly female. I once sat through a meeting where a (male) senior HR rep spend 15 minutes mansplaining inclusive meeting behaviour and no one was able to cut him off. So I’m quite surprised that the results so far are so low.

[mibro@bildung.social]

@sundogplanets
Weekend which I spent with my family

[offbeatmammal@mastodon.social]

@weta @sundogplanets well, it is a symptom mostly of my gender, so it's acceptable as a gendered term. I also like "manologue" and "corectile dysfunction"

[offbeatmammal@mastodon.social]

@sundogplanets where does a manplainer get their drink from?
A well, actually.

[iju@mastodon.social]

@Offbeatmammal @weta @sundogplanets

I just say besserwisser, with the assumption that the speaker only thinks they know better, not that they actually do.

Though I do admit that know-it-all doesn't necessarily relate to interest on unprompted speaking.

[weta@kolektiva.social]

@Offbeatmammal it's a sexist generalisation it's offensive in the same way as 'dumb blond' or ' nagging' or 'hysterical' for instance. describing a real behavior pattern doesn't require blaming an entire gender for it I think

@sundogplanets

[weta@kolektiva.social]

@iju I like that 😂👍

@Offbeatmammal @sundogplanets

[samanthajanesmith@lgbtqia.space]

@david_chisnall @sundogplanets I think many women avoid generic men (I e. Non relatives, friends etc.) if they possibly can especially out of work.

[erika@ruhr.social]

@sundogplanets I'm so happy I'm no expert on anything. That's why I didn't vote.

[disorderlyf@todon.eu]

@sundogplanets For once, it wasn't a man this time.

[iju@mastodon.social]

@weta @Offbeatmammal @sundogplanets

Thank-you!

Allow me an addendum: sometimes it's worth asking WHY someone is doing something, and not just ARE they doing it.

Besserwissering (and mansplaining, in case there's a difference) is characterized by hierarchial powerplay: keeping the stage (over more qualified) shows societal capital.

At the same time we must remember that (needless-)monologuing is also an autistic way of seeking connection. I get the impression that this is often forgotten.

[toothless@theforkiverse.com]

@sundogplanets one….but then I only spent time with one man. (And the subject was gardening)

[offbeatmammal@mastodon.social]

@iju @weta @sundogplanets as an autistic person, I am very conscious of that behavior in myself and try (usually successfully, I hope) to moderate it

[iju@mastodon.social]

@Offbeatmammal @weta @sundogplanets

Indeed. That was perhaps what I wanted to bring to the conversation. I tend to see (even on mastodon!) replies that I would characterize more as "autistic trying to be friendly", but which are categorized under mansplaining, replyguying, etc.

It's a researched fact that US citizens are the worst at working in multicultural environments. This doesn't only mean other nationalities, but also autists and other subcultures. You either mask or are inpolite.

[weta@kolektiva.social]

@iju @Offbeatmammal @sundogplanets

Well this is now above my pay grade, but the points being made are brilliant and I hadn't even considered them until now, honestly

[lyrx@mastodon.social]

@sundogplanets Is this Women's Day, where I can simply declare myself a woman for a day and declare my needs, or Women's Day in the name of fighting for women's rights, in honor of those who have been oppressed, women's difficult experiences?

[iju@mastodon.social]

@Offbeatmammal @weta @sundogplanets

I'll add that I've repeatedly seen people with empty or non-relevant profile bios (that's to say: assumed US citizens) hassling a replying person who's profile states they have a doctorate in the topic in question.

(Which is ofc what happened to the OP.)

Itboccurs to me that are they trying to be annoying, or doing powerplays.. or upkeeping rules of conversation where academic knowledge, autistic communication etc. are seen as breaking good manners.