@juliette My step mom used to teach middle school deaf cohort in a public school system alongside other teachers with hearing challenges, though she herself was hearing.
The easiest answer is to write stuff down if it's important, and the second answer nobody wants is to speak more succinctly or come to terms with the fact that even hearing people are bad at paying attention. Listening takes energy, more energy with an obstacle, and while asking if you can accommodate is commendable (continues)