When you meet new people, how often do they pronounce your name correctly on the first try?
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This is really fascinating. I have some thoughts.
I started this poll because I was thinking about how Andrew Cuomo and to some extent Curtis Sliwa, in the New York mayoral race, repeatedly and intentionally mispronounced Zohran Mamdani's name, in an obvious attempt to other him. Here's a clip about it.
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I started this poll because I was thinking about how Andrew Cuomo and to some extent Curtis Sliwa, in the New York mayoral race, repeatedly and intentionally mispronounced Zohran Mamdani's name, in an obvious attempt to other him. Here's a clip about it.
He eventually called out Andrew Cuomo on stage during the debates about it.
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He eventually called out Andrew Cuomo on stage during the debates about it.
Let's put aside for the moment how risible it is that a man named Cuomo and another named Sliwa were trying to other someone for having an unusual name.
What I loved about this moment was realizing how many New Yorkers watching had experienced this same kind of microaggression and fucking hate it.
Cuomo and Sliwa were trying to make Mamdani the other, but they were being the *real* other -- the racist white man who tries to make you feel small.
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Let's put aside for the moment how risible it is that a man named Cuomo and another named Sliwa were trying to other someone for having an unusual name.
What I loved about this moment was realizing how many New Yorkers watching had experienced this same kind of microaggression and fucking hate it.
Cuomo and Sliwa were trying to make Mamdani the other, but they were being the *real* other -- the racist white man who tries to make you feel small.
My full name, Evangelo Stavro Prodromou, can be hard for people to get through. Some people are nice about it; others aren't. I am a native English speaker, with many other privileges, and even I felt some vindication at that moment. FUCK those guys for what they were doing.
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My full name, Evangelo Stavro Prodromou, can be hard for people to get through. Some people are nice about it; others aren't. I am a native English speaker, with many other privileges, and even I felt some vindication at that moment. FUCK those guys for what they were doing.
@evan This poll encouraged me to gently correct the nurse who got my name very wrong when she was calling it in the waiting room today.
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My full name, Evangelo Stavro Prodromou, can be hard for people to get through. Some people are nice about it; others aren't. I am a native English speaker, with many other privileges, and even I felt some vindication at that moment. FUCK those guys for what they were doing.
I cannot help but think that this bullshit was a part of Mamdani's electoral success, however small. He stood up and said, I am not an outsider; you're the outsiders. There are more of us than there are of you. And you can't talk to us that way any more.
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I cannot help but think that this bullshit was a part of Mamdani's electoral success, however small. He stood up and said, I am not an outsider; you're the outsiders. There are more of us than there are of you. And you can't talk to us that way any more.
It made me wonder, how many of us have this experience. Is having a name that's hard to pronounce really being the "other"?
So, this poll's results were really telling for me. About 31% said that the people they meet always get their name right. That's great; no shame in that!
But that leaves 69% of people, the vast majority, that sometimes or often or always get their names mispronounced. Having your name mispronounced doesn't make you unusual; it makes you very normal!
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It made me wonder, how many of us have this experience. Is having a name that's hard to pronounce really being the "other"?
So, this poll's results were really telling for me. About 31% said that the people they meet always get their name right. That's great; no shame in that!
But that leaves 69% of people, the vast majority, that sometimes or often or always get their names mispronounced. Having your name mispronounced doesn't make you unusual; it makes you very normal!
Part of the experience of when someone is having a hard time with your name is feeling blamed. Everyone else has easy names, but you come in here and make it hard for everyone. You're the problem, and insisting on being addressed correctly is unfair and distracting.
But the numbers are wrong. Not everyone else has an easy name. Most people have hard names. You're not being difficult; you're being normal.
Anyway, thanks for participating, everyone.
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@evan This poll encouraged me to gently correct the nurse who got my name very wrong when she was calling it in the waiting room today.
@jessamyn I have not said your name out loud, but I would pronounce it like "specimen". Is that close?
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It made me wonder, how many of us have this experience. Is having a name that's hard to pronounce really being the "other"?
So, this poll's results were really telling for me. About 31% said that the people they meet always get their name right. That's great; no shame in that!
But that leaves 69% of people, the vast majority, that sometimes or often or always get their names mispronounced. Having your name mispronounced doesn't make you unusual; it makes you very normal!
@evan fwiw, theres a difference between your first name getting butchered and people having difficulty with your surname
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@evan fwiw, theres a difference between your first name getting butchered and people having difficulty with your surname
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