I'm not a car person, so I never really paid attention to car makes or models before.
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@DJGummikuh the problem is that it isn't just "human garbage" truly shitty people only make up a tiny percentage of the total. It's the guy who was "just joking" about your skirt length, or the people on the bus who decide it's "not their problem", or the lady who makes a comment about how articulate her black neighbor is.
It's the casual "🤷🏼♀️ what're ya gonna do about it" bigotry and entitlement that permeates every pore of society.
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@DJGummikuh the problem is that it isn't just "human garbage" truly shitty people only make up a tiny percentage of the total. It's the guy who was "just joking" about your skirt length, or the people on the bus who decide it's "not their problem", or the lady who makes a comment about how articulate her black neighbor is.
It's the casual "🤷🏼♀️ what're ya gonna do about it" bigotry and entitlement that permeates every pore of society.
«It's the guy who was "just joking" about your skirt length»
I keep thinking that I can't be surprised any more by the kinds of things people here might say "You wouldn't believe how often… " about, and I still manage to be surprised nearly every day. (Other recent examples: "You remind me of this one Asian woman I had an affair with", a VP or HR saying "I hired an oriental once", etc.)
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I'm not a car person, so I never really paid attention to car makes or models before. Sure, I knew that there were Hondas and Hyundais, but unless someone was actively pointing them out, I couldn't tell you which was which.
Then I became the owner of a little red Ford Focus, and I started driving it around.
Next thing I knew, I was spotting them *everywhere*. I'd come out of the grocer and there'd be identical ones parked on both sides of me! Hell, I eventually got a window decal so I could more easily tell which was mine 😋
A couple years ago I discovered I was lactose intolerant, and—bear with me, these stories are connected—I started keeping lactaid with me wherever I went (just to be safe). I started paying attention to just how much dairy was in things, and wow, spoiler: it's in like *everything* 😅
Over the past couple years, I've gotten pretty used to being lactose intolerant. I keep lactase handy, and I watch out for things with "too much dairy". It's just become background noise—like noticing other Ford Focuses (Foci?). It's just part of my life now.
A couple months ago I got propositioned by a creep in my hotel's lobby.
A couple weeks ago I had slurs yelled at me as I walked down the street with my mom.
A couple days ago someone told me to kill myself in a DM.
Every day, someone says "really? I don't see stuff like that here".
@alice That moment when a whole world suddenly opens up to you that you have never perceived before, only to realise that it has always been there and has always affected other people's lives profoundly on a daily basis. It's an eery feeling. It's disturbing–albeit eye-opening– to find out how narrow-minded and ignorant I was about something very real and very important. I wish that experience upon everyone.
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@alice > A couple days ago someone told me to kill myself in a DM.
> Every day, someone says "really? I don't see stuff like that here".
It's in DMs, how do they expect to see it?