I'm not a car person, so I never really paid attention to car makes or models before.
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Efforts to discuss examples of bigotry or harassment will often get you redirected to HR or suggestions for therapy, that's how bad the deliberate blindness of privilege works
The physical health problems that arise from social ecosystems of unacknowledged white supremacy.
People with high blood sugars & pre-diabetes despite good dietary & exercise habits.
Young POC with heart attacks.
Cortisol overload from the stress of being in an environment of unwarranted hate
@Npars01@mstdn.social @bruce@darkmoon.social @bjb@fosstodon.org @alice@lgbtqia.space With HR of course being there to cover the company's ass and absolutely not being one's friend.
Reportedly they will even frequently side with the abusers.
suggestions for therapy,
Cauterizing or stitching a stab wound doesn't fix the fact there's someone going around stabbing people for shit & giggles. It's horrendous and ridiculous for that to happen.
Anything rather than addressing the problem.
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@alice It's a matter of viewpoint. As a white person, I don't attract racism against blacks. I only see it when I happen to cross paths with a black person at just the right time to see it directed at them. That black person, though, sees it EVERY TIME it's directed at them. We're both seeing the same world, but from two radically different viewpoints due to our different skin colors. Too many people don't take that into account.
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Just to be explicit, that post was about how all the institutionalized/everyday/inherent sexism, racism, homophobia, bigotry, etc. is invisible to most folx until it directly impacts them.
Just like I don't see 99% of the racism that #BlackMastodon does until someone points an example out to me, and just like I would've told you that I don't know anyone who drives a red Ford Focus until I started driving one myself.
It's fucking everywhere...
And to those it affects, it's just the background noise of existing while black/queer/femme/disabled/neurodivergent, and so on.
@alice
I don´t know what's worse, the fact that we, as a society, are in such a horrible place or the fact that we (again: as a society) have such a hard time *seeing* we're actually in that spot.Ofc, if we really saw it we probably wouldn't be there.
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Just to be explicit, that post was about how all the institutionalized/everyday/inherent sexism, racism, homophobia, bigotry, etc. is invisible to most folx until it directly impacts them.
Just like I don't see 99% of the racism that #BlackMastodon does until someone points an example out to me, and just like I would've told you that I don't know anyone who drives a red Ford Focus until I started driving one myself.
It's fucking everywhere...
And to those it affects, it's just the background noise of existing while black/queer/femme/disabled/neurodivergent, and so on.
@alice as a cis white male growing up in USA, I can unequivocally agree.
I think I've always seen bigotry, a little, but the micro aggressions, the constant everyday bias, was less visible.
Until I noticed it in myself.
And realized at twenty something that nothing was gone. Except perhaps some overtly legal protection for bigotry.
But now that I know where to look? Everywhere!
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@alice > A couple days ago someone told me to kill myself in a DM.
> Every day, someone says "really? I don't see stuff like that here".
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@DJGummikuh the problem is that it isn't just "human garbage" truly shitty people only make up a tiny percentage of the total. It's the guy who was "just joking" about your skirt length, or the people on the bus who decide it's "not their problem", or the lady who makes a comment about how articulate her black neighbor is.
It's the casual "🤷🏼♀️ what're ya gonna do about it" bigotry and entitlement that permeates every pore of society.
Very well put.
I hear all those comments and many similar quite often in the conversations of people that pass by my table as I have my morning coffee. -
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@k_leyton_cooper again, uh...what?
@alice
Just satirical comments on Ur "Coming of Age" tales (which I think are hilarious)❗️ 😂😃 -
@AlexanderVI @alice Not very often, and usually not more than once. Worst case, twice.
Sometimes I don't recognize it until someone else calls it out, but you learn new things all the time and I count that call-out as "once".
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I'm not a car person, so I never really paid attention to car makes or models before. Sure, I knew that there were Hondas and Hyundais, but unless someone was actively pointing them out, I couldn't tell you which was which.
Then I became the owner of a little red Ford Focus, and I started driving it around.
Next thing I knew, I was spotting them *everywhere*. I'd come out of the grocer and there'd be identical ones parked on both sides of me! Hell, I eventually got a window decal so I could more easily tell which was mine 😋
A couple years ago I discovered I was lactose intolerant, and—bear with me, these stories are connected—I started keeping lactaid with me wherever I went (just to be safe). I started paying attention to just how much dairy was in things, and wow, spoiler: it's in like *everything* 😅
Over the past couple years, I've gotten pretty used to being lactose intolerant. I keep lactase handy, and I watch out for things with "too much dairy". It's just become background noise—like noticing other Ford Focuses (Foci?). It's just part of my life now.
A couple months ago I got propositioned by a creep in my hotel's lobby.
A couple weeks ago I had slurs yelled at me as I walked down the street with my mom.
A couple days ago someone told me to kill myself in a DM.
Every day, someone says "really? I don't see stuff like that here".
@alice dang, I'm sorry A 🖤
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@alice as a cis white male growing up in USA, I can unequivocally agree.
I think I've always seen bigotry, a little, but the micro aggressions, the constant everyday bias, was less visible.
Until I noticed it in myself.
And realized at twenty something that nothing was gone. Except perhaps some overtly legal protection for bigotry.
But now that I know where to look? Everywhere!
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@DJGummikuh the problem is that it isn't just "human garbage" truly shitty people only make up a tiny percentage of the total. It's the guy who was "just joking" about your skirt length, or the people on the bus who decide it's "not their problem", or the lady who makes a comment about how articulate her black neighbor is.
It's the casual "🤷🏼♀️ what're ya gonna do about it" bigotry and entitlement that permeates every pore of society.
racism is the water we swim in every single day. when I was 5/6, my liberal gay mother, would take us to eat at a restaurant called Sambo's (1975/6) in Seattle. I saw a post about the chain (2010's) and realized what the deal was. I have had white people casually say the n word, and all the words for black and brown people, to my face my whole life. the only pancake syrup we had in the house was the black slave/servant woman shaped bottle. it's everywhere.
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@alice > A couple days ago someone told me to kill myself in a DM.
> Every day, someone says "really? I don't see stuff like that here".
It's in DMs, how do they expect to see it?@lispi314 @alice I do see it outside of DMs and I report it every time, if they are a mutual I'll generally also call it out in a reply before I block and report
It's horrific the kind of things people say to eachother on here. I don't see all of it, obviously, and I see enough of it that I worry about the stuff that's said out of sight
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I'm not a car person, so I never really paid attention to car makes or models before. Sure, I knew that there were Hondas and Hyundais, but unless someone was actively pointing them out, I couldn't tell you which was which.
Then I became the owner of a little red Ford Focus, and I started driving it around.
Next thing I knew, I was spotting them *everywhere*. I'd come out of the grocer and there'd be identical ones parked on both sides of me! Hell, I eventually got a window decal so I could more easily tell which was mine 😋
A couple years ago I discovered I was lactose intolerant, and—bear with me, these stories are connected—I started keeping lactaid with me wherever I went (just to be safe). I started paying attention to just how much dairy was in things, and wow, spoiler: it's in like *everything* 😅
Over the past couple years, I've gotten pretty used to being lactose intolerant. I keep lactase handy, and I watch out for things with "too much dairy". It's just become background noise—like noticing other Ford Focuses (Foci?). It's just part of my life now.
A couple months ago I got propositioned by a creep in my hotel's lobby.
A couple weeks ago I had slurs yelled at me as I walked down the street with my mom.
A couple days ago someone told me to kill myself in a DM.
Every day, someone says "really? I don't see stuff like that here".
@alice There was some research some time ago that Human pattern matching actually works like that. Humans never observe the actual distribution of things. They observe Red Ford Focus. And when they want to see it they see it everywhere.
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Just to be explicit, that post was about how all the institutionalized/everyday/inherent sexism, racism, homophobia, bigotry, etc. is invisible to most folx until it directly impacts them.
Just like I don't see 99% of the racism that #BlackMastodon does until someone points an example out to me, and just like I would've told you that I don't know anyone who drives a red Ford Focus until I started driving one myself.
It's fucking everywhere...
And to those it affects, it's just the background noise of existing while black/queer/femme/disabled/neurodivergent, and so on.
@alice Yep. It's even worse when you realize that because of how federation works, you *only* get some of the subtle/microaggressive stuff unless you're on an instance with HELLA relays.
At full blast, that shit's the equivalent of the sound of walking by a gigantic wasp nest.
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Just to be explicit, that post was about how all the institutionalized/everyday/inherent sexism, racism, homophobia, bigotry, etc. is invisible to most folx until it directly impacts them.
Just like I don't see 99% of the racism that #BlackMastodon does until someone points an example out to me, and just like I would've told you that I don't know anyone who drives a red Ford Focus until I started driving one myself.
It's fucking everywhere...
And to those it affects, it's just the background noise of existing while black/queer/femme/disabled/neurodivergent, and so on.
@alice This in conjunction with the car-related analogy has made me realize... we actually do experience something along similar lines, though not nearly as severe as harassment
we used to drive a saturn vue, which is not a huge car (by american standards) but also not a small one. but then several years ago we got a toyota prius, and ever since then driving at night has been unbearable
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@alice This in conjunction with the car-related analogy has made me realize... we actually do experience something along similar lines, though not nearly as severe as harassment
we used to drive a saturn vue, which is not a huge car (by american standards) but also not a small one. but then several years ago we got a toyota prius, and ever since then driving at night has been unbearable
-F@alice this is because many, *many* cars have headlights that shine directly into the rearview mirror of the car in front of them, but only if that car is small enough, a problem we had never encountered before and now can't escape
it makes me wonder, just how much did we contribute to that problem before knowing about it
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RE: https://mastodon.social/@monaashqer/116167213209635136
My cousin is suffering and needs treatment and food. He appeared on Al Jazeera but received no support. Please help him. The one who guides to good is like the one who does it. 🩶
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@cwebber ask projects to write docs for *human* devs and you’ll get nowhere, but if it’s for AI then suddenly they can’t write it quick enough.
I prefer mine though: https://github.com/manyfold3d/manyfold/blob/main/AGENTS.md
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@cwebber [sighs heavily]
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@madamada no, it’s from the uptimed tool
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@francina1909 a me piacciono perché sulla pelle sono più piacevoli di quelli usa e getta, e il fatto che siano spessi, a livello psicologico, mi fa nascere l’idea che assorbano meglio e quindi mi sento più tranquilla. ( ps Io li ho con le ali, hanno i bottoncini 😆!!)
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ognuna si trova bene con quello con cui si trova bene, non mi sognerei mai di chiamare "uno schifo" quello che usa un'altra.
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@Lyra no non ce la farei mai.
Già quelli anni 90 spessi 5-7 centimetri e senza ali erano una tortura e uno schifo.
