My eldest teen is giving me presentations and sending memos on why they should have TikTok

[webhat@infosec.exchange]

My eldest teen is giving me presentations and sending memos on why they should have TikTok

Should I let them have TikTok?

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#askFedi

[webhat@infosec.exchange]

If it's time limited, how much time?

[rhelune@todon.eu]

@webhat The American one or the Chinese one? Is there a Fedi alternative? I know that people go where their friends are, but perhaps they could influence their friends.

[webhat@infosec.exchange]

@rhelune good question, I haven't even thought that far. I have no idea which one their friends are on

[pepijn@mastodon.online]

@webhat I have no opinion on whether they should have it in the first place. I think it requires a lot of context you have and we don't.

If you decide they should then a strict time limit makes sense. Like 2x 15 min a day or something. It'll teach their brain to approach this as a limited resource they have to use consciously.

You can always expand later.

[webhat@infosec.exchange]

@Pepijn certainly, personally I think it's a waste of time, and think ~30 minutes is a good time limit

I also didn't want to remain stuck in my own biases, and get additional input from others

[chewie@mammut.gogreenit.net]

@webhat I don't use it, but if it's anything like "youtube shorts", i feel myself getting dumber with every video my other-half watches....

[dzwiedziu@mastodon.social]

@webhat
Before US takeover of TT I would be on “Ok, but with limitations”, but after I'm on “No, absolutely not”.

[lone@mastodon.online]

@webhat Other: Is there a mastodon space for teen? In that case - maybe this option?

[pepijn@mastodon.online]

@webhat I totally agree on thinking it's a waste of time.

But teenage me also spend countless mindless hours on IRC chat, emailing with random people like members of an American suicide cult, and crashing planes in MS Flight Simulator.

Maybe a strictly limited 30min TikTok (can it be siloed to a group of real world friends?) experience is so limiting that they get bored of it?

[gsuberland@chaos.social]

@webhat are they 13 or over? if not, it's a ToS/CoPPA violation anyway and a moot point.

if so, it's hard to answer without deeper context. I would at least want to investigate the parental controls that are available before saying yes.

I'm personally extremely not a fan of shorts/tiktok, but kids are their own people with their own preferences so I'm also hesitant to suggest controlling their media usage. it's a difficult line to balance.

[webhat@infosec.exchange]

@Lone I was thinking about loops as an alternative, although I'm not sure about the privacy there

[gsuberland@chaos.social]

@webhat (oh, right, you said teen so CoPPA is irrelevant, derp. sorry, got a cold so I'm a bit out of it)

[webhat@infosec.exchange]

@Pepijn same. I was writing vampire fanfic on mailinglists 😁

[lone@mastodon.online]

@webhat Yeah, I realised that it doesn't have to be Masto. ;) But yeah, it would be a good idea to ask your kid what would they like to do with that account and depending on the answer choose appropriate platform - be it video, photos or text. :)